A couples’ retreat in Costa Rica with Stan and Tracey Tatkin

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Many of you will arrive at Sugar Beach sometime on Sunday afternoon. You’ll have a chance to settle in, swim in the pool, play in the ocean and soak up the beauty of your environment before you indulge in a delectable dinner. After dinner, Stan will begin with his introductory session.​

IMG_2230Each morning you will have an opportunity to join a Meditation and Yoga session and/or you may take an early morning walk on the beach before having a delicious breakfast in the open-air restaurant. The sun-rises in this area are vibrant and as the ocean and land critters awaken you can feel the energy of life all around you.


Below, you will see the general schedule for the entire week. You will have lots of time to learn amazing and practical information from Stan that you can use to empower and enrich your life as well as ample time for exciting adventures, playful activities, sharing time with others and time to relax and absorb the beauty of this splendid tropical paradise. Please NOTE…this schedule may change to meet the needs of the participants and to support the flow of the teachings.



Celebrate Your Arrival

2 – 3 pm – Arrival at Sugar Beach Resort

3 – 6 pm – Settle into your tropical space, swim in the pool, play in the ocean, relax and enjoy the peacefulness

7:30 pm – Dinner

Stan’s Welcome session and overview of the week

  • Explain landings and launchings and the importance of bedtime rituals – provide some examples

Q & A


7 am – Yoga/Meditation Session

8 am – Breakfast

9:15 – 9:30 Couple bubble? Why be a couple?

9:30 – 10:00 Secure functioning Introduce and explain the concept of secure functioning. Cover the automatic brain and the brain’s negativity bias

10:00 – 10:30 Each person briefly indicate why they came and what one thing they hope to gain from the week together

10:30 – 10:45 break lynne schedule 3

10:45 – 11:10 Exercise: Monarchs

11:10 – 11:30 Debrief and Q & A

11:30- 11:45 Loving Warring Brain

11:45 – 12:10 Exercise: Couples face to face and are led through “poses” by Stan (*see below)

12:10 – 12:30 Debrief and Q & A

12:30 – 2:00 lunch break

Monday 2:00 – 5:30 (3.5)

2:00 – 2:30 Know Your Partner – Introduce attachment styles (wave, island, anchor), where they come from and why they matter.

2:30 – 3:00 Q & A

3:00 – 3:45 Demonstration: Role play with a couple where one is an island and the other is a wave. The result should be giving them some “tools.” IMG_6838 (2)

3:45 – 4:00 break

4:00 – 4:30 Q & A

4:30 – 5:30 – Parking lot demos and questions

*look away from your partner, still face, folded arms, finger pointing, dismissive hand movement, head to the side, back to partner, roll eyes, breathe on partner, chin raised, testosterone arms, lips tight, teeth bared. 



7 am – Yoga/Meditation SessionIMG_2231

8 am – Breakfast

9:00 – 9:20 What is your partner’s kryptonite

9:20 – 9:45 demo of kryptonite

9:45 – 10:05 Q & A

10:05 – 10:25 How to sooth and please your partner

10:25 – 10:45 Demo

10:45 – 11:00 break

11:00 – 11:20 Q & A

11:20 – 11:35 Automated Brain (include exciting love – in the eyes, joint attention, shared excitement)

11:35 – 11:50 Q & A

11:50 – 12:30 Parking lot items and questionsIMG_5482

12:30- 2:00 Lunch

Relax time and Dinner

Tuesday 7:30 – 10:00 (2.5)

7:30 – 7:45 Introduce Naikan

7:45 – 8:00 Landings and Launchings finish about reunions and lead into attraction without fear, threat or shame

8:00 – 8:25 Demonstrations: Welcome home (5 min) and beckoning exercises (10 min) how to get your partner to come home (10)

8:25 – 8:35 Go To People and

8:35 – 8:50 PAPER predict, anticipate, plan, enjoy, repair

8:50 – 9:15 Q & A

9:15 – 9:45 demo with couple where this may be an issue

9:45 – 10:00 final questions


6 am – Yoga/Meditation Session or Walk on the Beach

7 am –  Breakfast

A full day of options. This is a day to experience new adventures as couples and with new friends who are with you on this glorious retreat. You may wish to explore in a large group or in subgroups that we will help coordinate according to your preferences for activities, or simply be with those you came with. This is the time to discover what truly nourishes you and be with those who choose to be part of that delightful exploration. paste55One of the most popular choices is to spend the day at Buena Vista where you will get to ride horses, go on a thrilling zip-line, play on water slides, take a mud-bath, hike in the rain-forest, and more. Or, you may select one of the other activities that we will offer you once you are there. You do not need to decide now, we just want you to know that these are all available at an additional cost.

To see activities, see below:


.7 pm – Dinner


7 am – Yoga/Meditation Session

8 am – Breakfast

9:00 – 9:30 check in

9:30 -10:00 demo with any couple who had issues while on excursion

10:00 – 10:30 Thirds

10:30 – 10:45 Break

 10:45 – 11:10 demo with a couple struggling with this principle (assistant participation as third if necessary)

11:10 – 11:30 Q & A

11:30 – 12:30 parking lot items and questions

12:30 – 2:00 lunch

Relax time and Dinner

7:30 – 7:50 Fighting Well and Getting in and out of Conflict to quick repair IMG_2229

7:50 – 8:30 Demo: Demos with couples – couple struggling with fighting or just wanting your guidance for 5-minute resolution/compromise – Conflict and repair

8:30- 9:00 Q & A

9:00 – 9:20 Love up Close – partners face-to-face while Stan explains the concept and leads them with playdoh face – first the first name for love part here as well

9:20 – 10:00 Debrief and introduce Shared Principles of Governance (ask them to identify one principle)


7 am – Yoga/Meditation Session IMG_5464 (2)

8 am – Breakfast

9:00 – 9:15 check in

9:15 – 9:45 Reintroduce the reduction of Allostatic load and Secure-functioning

9:45 – 10:00 Q & A

10:00 – 10:40 Sexuality Stan teaches – include how to do sexuality and intimacy that takes performance issues off the table.

10:40 – 11:00 Q & A

11:00 – 11:15 break

11:15 – 12:30 Stan to cover what he feels needs to be covered or parking lot items and questions

12:30 – 2:00 lunch

Friday 2:00 to 4:30 (2.5)

2:00 – 2:30 Exercise: Futurize your Partnership – gazing with Stan in trance

2:30- 2:50 Debrief exercise IMG_5526 (2)

2:50 – 3:15 Discuss reentry

3:15 – 3:45 Discuss their work on Shared Principles of Governance and answer questions

3:45 – 4:30 Q & A/Wrap up and closing the week – so important to wrap it up and tie it together with a BEAUTIFUL bow J




This is our last day at Sugar Beach

7 am –  BreakfastIMG_5468

Transportation to the airport will be provided for all of those who are leaving.
If you wish to extend your stay, let us know and we can support you with the logistics in doing so.

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Optional Adventure Activities

These are all optional activities you may choose to experience at an additional cost. We’ll go over the details shortly after your arrival.



$145 per/person Minimum 6pax

Enjoy a full day of adventures!!! We will pick you up at Sugar Beach Resort and drive you to your destination, which is about 1 3/4 hours away. Once there, you will follow the trails that will take you to the top of the trees.  The tree top canopy has twelve platforms and ten zip lines that range from 150 to 400 feet in length…really thrilling and safe rides!

Cool off on the 1500 ft. long water slide. Enjoy a refreshing journey as you go down this slide with an inner-tube…a great way to invigorate yourself and have fun!

79a3a536bce2a7df1a451f8315794e0eAnd then, horseback riding to the thermal waters, steam bath and natural spa, located at the foot of Rincon de la Vieja Volcano.

This is a very active and full day and a wonderful way to experience some of Costa Rica’s adventures

Duration:       Full day!!  Starts: 7:30 am – 6 pm Approx.

Wear:              Tennis shoes, shirt and shorts.

Bring:             Camera, binoculars, swimsuit, long pants, sunscreen, insect repellent and a change of clothes.

Included:       Air-conditioned, round trip transportation, English speaking guide and LUNCH.



$110 per person Minimum 6pax

This is a perfect journey for wildlife lovers!!! Come and visit Palo Verde, one of the most important and interesting National Parks in Costa Rica.

You will experience 12 different habitats within the park including: mangroves, swamps, swamps forests, saltwater and freshwater lagoons and marshes.

Enjoy a two hour boat ride on the Tempisque River watching: the fabulous array of wild birds, a myriad of creatures such as howler  and whiteface monkeys, green iguanas, coatis, anteaters and crocodiles.

Duration:       Full Day!! 7 hours

Wear:              Tennis shoes or sandals, shorts and T shirt.

Bring:             Camera, binoculars, sunscreen, insect repellent, hat or cap.

Air-conditioned, round trip transportation, English speaking guide, LUNCH.



$75 per person Minimum 6pax

This canopy tour is located in a little town named Artola which is very close to several  beaches.

You will enjoy your day  flying down several suspended cables and experience a walk bridge between two platforms…this is a truly exhilarating and exciting experience. If we are lucky even the Howler Monkeys will be our company during a part of the canopy tour.

Duration:       Half day!!     FROM 8:30 am – 1 pm

Wear:              Hiking or tennis shoes, knee shorts or pants, T shirt and a cap.

Bring:             Binoculars, camera, sunscreen and insect repellent.

Included:       Air-conditioned, round trip transportation, English speaking guide.

No Meals Included



$60 p/p Minimum 6pax


On this adventure, you will visit the Tamarindo Wildlife Refuge which protects a large estuary, mangrove forest and tropical dry forest in an area covering almost 500 hectares.

On this journey we will pick you up at Sugar Beach Resort and drive for about 45 minutes. You will then board a small  boat that takes you to the narrow canals as you observe various plants, trees and animals.  You may be able to see rare and abundant wildlife,  including dozens of bird species and two species of monkeys  while learning about the unique ecosystem  of the mangrove forest.

Duration:       Half day!!     Starts:  Depends on the tide…check with us

Wear:              Cool comfortable clothes, beach sandals and hat.

Bring:             Binoculars, camera, sunscreen and insect repellent.

Included:       Air-conditioned, round trip transportation, drinks, English speaking guide.

Fruits Included