WIRED FOR LOVE – Schedule

A couples’ retreat in Costa Rica with Stan and Tracey Tatkin

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SCHEDULE

Many of you will arrive at Sugar Beach sometime on Sunday afternoon. You’ll have a chance to settle in, swim in the pool, play in the ocean and soak up the beauty of your environment before you indulge in a delectable dinner. After dinner, Stan will begin with his introductory session.​

IMG_2230Each morning you will have an opportunity to join a Meditation and Yoga session and/or you may take an early morning walk on the beach before having a delicious breakfast in the open-air restaurant. The sun-rises in this area are vibrant and as the ocean and land critters awaken you can feel the energy of life all around you.

 

Below, you will see the general schedule for the entire week. You will have lots of time to learn amazing and practical information from Stan that you can use to empower and enrich your life as well as ample time for exciting adventures, playful activities, sharing time with others and time to relax and absorb the beauty of this splendid tropical paradise.


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Sunday

Celebrate Your Arrival

2 – 3 pm – Arrival at Sugar Beach Resort

3 – 6 pm – Settle into your tropical space, swim in the pool, play in the ocean, relax and enjoy the peacefulness

6 pm – Dinner

7:30 pm – Stan’s Welcome session and overview of the week

  • Explain landings and launchings and the importance of bedtime rituals – provide some examples

Q & A


 

lynne schedule 3Monday

7 am – Yoga/Meditation Session

8 am – Breakfast

9 am – Session with Stan: Secure functioning environment

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • Define secure functioning relationships
  • Why are they important
  • What makes them challenging
  • Q & A

Couple Bubble

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • Why be a couple?
  • Q & A

BREAK

Exercise – Experience the principle

Automatic Brain

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • How to keep love up close
  • Q & A

Exercise: Discussion on being in the automatic brain and how it impacts  relationships.

Group debrief and Final Q & A of day

12:15 pm – LunchIMG_6838 (2)

Personal Time with focus on Session suggestions.

During this time you may choose to play in the waves, swim in the pool, soak up a little sun, catch up on a little reading, go on a hike, connect with others, or just simply relax. If you wish, there is also a variety of massages and body work available at an additional cost.

6 pm –  Dinner

​7:30 pm – Evening Gathering


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7 am – Yoga/Meditation Session

8 am – Breakfast

9 am – Session with Stan: Loving Warring Brain

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • Identify primitives and ambassadors
  • What does that look like in a couple relationship
  • Q & A

BREAK

Know Your Partner

  • Introduce attachment styles (wave, island, anchor)
  • Where they come from and why they matterIMG_5482
  • Styles explored
  • Q & A

Fishbowl with couple(s) where one is an island and the other is a wave

Exercise: Couples determine their attachment leanings (I’m wave-ish, anchor-ish etc)

Group Debrief

Introduce processing speeds (tortoise and hare) and airplanes and submarines

Q & A

12:15 pm – Lunch

3 pm – Stan’s second session: How to Please & Soothe Your Partner IMG_5512

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • Q & A

Exercise: Practice this principle

Fishbowl demonstration by Stan with couple(s)

BREAK

Go To People

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • 24/7
  • Q & A

Management of Thirds

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • Q & A

Fishbowl with couple(s) struggling with either Go To People and Management of Thirds

Final Q & A of day

7 pm – Dinner


 

Wednesday

6 am – Yoga/Meditation Session or Walk on the Beach

7 am –  Breakfast

A full day of options. This is a day to experience new adventures as couples and with new friends who are with you on this glorious retreat. You may wish to explore in a large group or in subgroups that we will help coordinate according to your preferences for activities, or simply be with those you came with. This is the time to discover what truly nourishes you and be with those who choose to be part of that delightful exploration. paste55One of the most popular choices is to spend the day at Buena Vista where you will get to ride horses, go on a thrilling zip-line, play on water slides, take a mud-bath, hike in the rain-forest, and more. Or, you may select one of the other activities that we will offer you once you are there. You do not need to decide now, we just want you to know that these are all available at an additional cost.

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7 pm – Dinner


 

Thursday

7 am – Yoga/Meditation Session

8 am –  BreakfastIMG_2229

9 am  – Session with Stan: Landings and Launchings

Demonstration: Welcome home

Demonstration: Beckoning exercises

BREAK

Fighting Well

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • 5-minute argument
  • Win-win
  • Q & A

Fishbowl with couple(s) – couple struggling with fighting or just wanting guidance for 5-minute resolution/compromise

Love is up Close

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • Reintroduce the Automatic Brain
  • Declarations
  • Q & A

Fishbowl declarations with couple(s) IMG_5464 (2)

Introduce Naikan and homework

Final Q & A of the day

12:15 pm – Lunch

Afternoon – Personal Time with focus on Session suggestions.

During this time you may choose to continue to play in the waves, swim in the pool, soak up a little sun, catch up on a little reading, go on a hike, connect with others, or just simply relax. We are happy to schedule a variety of massages and body work available at an additional cost.

Around 3 pm you may choose to do an  Optional Service Project with the children at the community center Abriendo Mentes, in Portrero, the local village. This is an opportunity to give back to the people in Costa Rica and to share our gratitude
6:30 pm – Dinner


 

Friday

7 am – Yoga/Meditation SessionIMG_5503

8 am – Breakfast

9 am –  Session with Stan: How Partnership Can Heal You

  • Introduce and support the principle
  • Reduce Allostatic load
  • Secure-functioning
  • Q & A

Demonstration exercise: King & Queen

Sexuality issues in the Couple Relationship

Q & A

BREAK

Exercise: Couples or couples and sexuality with support from contributing therapists

Group process about sexuality

Futurize your PartnershipIMG_5509 (2)

Guided visualization about couples secure functioning relationships at future milestones.

Introduce Social Contract

Homework for social contract

Final Q & A of the day

12:15 pm – Lunch

After lunch, you have personal time. One of the  options we recommend for the afternoon is Pura Vidaride. An easy 20 minute walk south of Sugar Beach is Pura Vidaride where on your own you can rent: paddle boards, surf boards, boogie boards, snorkeling equipment, mountain bikes, kayaks and more. They also have a fun little restaurant there and they serve very tasty gelato.

4 pm – Optional Mandala Ceremony on the beachIMG_5526 (2)

6 pm – Dinner

7:30 pm – Festive Gathering

 

 

 


 

Saturday

This is our last day together as a group.

7 am –  BreakfastIMG_5468

8 am – Closing session with Stan

Exercise: Couples work on Social Contract

Reinforce and review what was learned over the week and discuss re-entry

Final Group processing and questions

Any final wrap up and housekeeping

Transportation to the airport will be provided for all of those who are leaving.
If you wish to extend your stay, let us know and we can support you with the logistics in doing so.

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