WIRED FOR LOVE – About Us
A couples’ retreat in Costa Rica with Stan and Tracey Tatkin
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.
In addition, Dr. Tatkin teaches and supervises first- through third-year family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente, Woodland Hills, CA, and is an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine. He is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as a core member on Relationships First, a nonprofit organization founded by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.
Books by Dr. Tatkin include
- Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships, published by Sounds True
- Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship, published by New Harbinger.
- Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy, with coauthor Marion Solomon, available through W. W. Norton’s Interpersonal Neurobiology Series.
Newest audio book – Relationship RX: Insights and Practices to Overcome Fighting and Return to Love.
Dr. Tatkin received his early training in developmental object relations (Masterson Institute), Gestalt, psychodrama, and family systems theory. In his private practice, he specialized for some time in treating adolescents and adults with personality disorders. More recently, his interests turned to psycho-neurobiological theories of human relationship, and to integrating principles of early mother-infant attachment with principles of adult romantic relationships.
Dr. Tatkin was a primary inpatient group therapist at the John Bradshaw Center where, among other things, he taught mindfulness to patients and staff. He was trained in Vipassana meditation by Shinzen Young, PhD, and was an experienced facilitator in Vipassana. He was also trained by David Reynolds, PhD in two Japanese forms of psychotherapy, Morita and Naikan.
Dr. Tatkin was clinical director of Charter Hospital’s intensive outpatient drug and alcohol program, and is a former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter. He is a veteran member of Allan N. Schore’s study group. He also trained in the Adult Attachment Interview through Mary Main and Erik Hesse’s program out of UC Berkeley.
Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, has served as the director of various philanthropic family foundations over three decades. In addition to her leadership roles, she has been involved at the ground level of humanitarian efforts worldwide. This sensitivity to family systems helps guide her work as co-executive of the PACT Institute. Together with her husband, Stan Tatkin, the developer of PACT, Tracey travels nationally and internationally to facilitate the training of mental-health professionals, as well as co-leading couple’s retreats.
Supporting Stan on this retreat…
Franco Marini is the co-owner and director of Global Journeys. Franco was born in Italy and since his arrival in the U.S., when he was eight, he has continued traveling as part of his life’s mission. He has chosen to devote his life to being in service as a teacher and healer. He is a Yoga Shiromani (teacher of yoga), a ceremonialist, a wellness coach, a massage therapist, a drum-maker, a consultant and director of Peak Empowerment – an organization dedicated to personal, team and organizational development. He loves to be in service to those seeking personal growth and spiritual expansion. One of his commitments in life is to create programs, such as this retreat, that have a vision focused on personal empowerment, transformation, and well being. His role on this retreat is one of support.
Kay LatchmanSingh is the main organizer and logistic expert of this retreat. Her background in international trade and finance and her attention to details will ensure that this will be a quality experience for all. She is in communication with everyone who is a part of this program and makes sure that all aspects of this endeavor are synchronized. Kay is also in charge of participant wellness and takes care of everyone from the time they register until they are back home. Kay is the co-owner and vice-president of Global Journeys. She provides a wealth of experience in travel and cultural connections. Kay was born and educated in British Guyana, moved to the U.S. and has traveled and worked with people in many European countries, Russia, Egypt, South Africa, British West Indies, and Central America. Her knowledge and connections with various cultures is a wonderful asset as she works with and teaches a variety of people. Her vision of providing service to those in need and doing so in a celebratory way certainly is the foundation of this retreat. She is a Yoga Shiromani (teacher of yoga) in the Sampoorna tradition, and is a student of Sanskrit. She will be leading some of the Yoga sessions on this retreat. Kay’s Hindu practice, knowledge of the Vedic Traditions, experience leading Kirtan, amazing ability to prepare Indian cuisine and Yoga knowledge will be invaluable assets on this retreat.
Some Powerful Books by Stan
Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships (6 CD set)
by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
“Understand your brain, improve your relationships.” That’s what Stan Tatkin has learned from his leading-edge work as a researcher and couple therapist. In this complete audio learning program, he merges current insights from neurobiology and attachment theory to help you shift out of conflict and into deeper and more loving connections.
You’ll first learn to identify attachment styles–patterns of intimacy that begin in the earliest years–both in yourself and in those around you. Then Tatkin guides you through his proven principles and practices for building enduring security and commitment between partners, family members, and others whom you love.
Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy
by Marion Solomon and Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Neuroscience and couples therapy come together to help couples break patterns of bad behavior. What happens between partners that makes love turn to war? How can couples therapists help deescalate the battles? Two leading therapists apply the latest neuroscience research on emotional arousal to help couples regulate each other’s emotions, maintain secure attachment, and foster positive, enduring relationships. The neurobiologically-grounded and sensitive approach set forth by Solomon and Tatkin in this book is sure to transform the way clinicians understand and treat couples in therapy.